“Throughout this book, I have insisted on the connection between human relationship and attention. Love, it turns out, is intimately related to attention. In The Road Less Traveled Scott Peck brilliantly defines love as action, as the willingness to extend oneself in order to nurture another person’s spiritual and psychological growth, or one’s own. Extending oneself means to do precisely what we find difficult to do.

To love is to extend oneself toward another or toward oneself, says Dr. Peck. It so happens that this is also the precise meaning of giving attention to another person or to oneself. The origin of the word attend is the latin tendere, “to stretch.” Attend means to extend, to stretch toward.”